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9 Keys for Better Chaldean Communication
By Rita Abro :: Sunday, January 29, 2012 :: 20970 Views :: Article Rating :: Health & Fitness, Community & Culture

Chaldeans are known for their savvy skills in business and negotiations.  Given communication is a fundamental skill in business and negotiations; you might be tempted to logically conclude Chaldeans must be great communicators. 

Let’s just say Chaldeans communicate differently than most in the West are accustomed to in business and negotiations.  Commonly Chaldeans in communications will be more outspoken, quick, transparent, bold, candid, and gesticulate freely in the discussion. 

This can be intimidating, frustrating, and difficult for non-Chaldeans who are taught a more linear, quiet, subtle, and masked way of sharing ones thoughts and feelings.  

A few weeks ago, I was asked to join two close friends for lunch, John, a Chaldean and Russell, a non-Chaldean (Names have been changed to protect the innocent). Throughout the lunch, I couldn't help but feel there was some sort of communication breakdown.  John would cut Russell off even though he was still talking. John kept offering unwanted advice and opinions, even though Russell was not asking for help. It became quite frustrating just 15 minutes into the conversation.  After 30 minutes, Russell stopped sharing and nodded away to everything John said.

After the lunch, I reflected over the situation. It was clear that there were fundamental problems in the communication. For one, there was a lack of active listening on John’s part.  He didn't sense Russell wasn't asking for his opinions and kept pushing his way through even when I was shutting out. Unfortunately, John came across the wrong way even though he had his best intentions.  Russell was also too single-minded in the discussion to receive John’s well-intended advice. Russell was only looking for certain responses from John, and when John didn't respond in that manner, Russell began to tune out of the conversation.

It's easy for us to accuse others of being poor communicators, poor listeners or poor speakers, but the thing about communication is that it's not one-sided - it's a 2-way street. You can't accuse someone of being a poor communicator without you being a poor communicator yourself.

Through this experience, I learned 9 important keys of communication which I'd like to share with readers:

1 - Be receptive to what others say

While it's good to enter the communication with a clear objective of what you want, don't be so focused on it that you tune out on important messages the person is trying to communicate. Don't expect the answers to come in a certain manner and certain style. Have a focus and at the same time keep your mind open.

Even if the people come across as critical, learn to deal with critical people and be open to criticism. Many people are quick to shut out criticisms but in the process they lose out on a lot of valuable advice and feedback. Don't take criticisms personally. Look for the message in the criticisms instead. Ask yourself: "What made the person say this? What lessons can I take away from this? How does this relate to my situation?" With an open mind, you can have more answers to what you seek.

2 - Look out for the subtext

Subtext is the underlying message of the communication. It's more well-known as "reading between the lines". Many misunderstandings between people (especially between Chaldean females and males or parents and children) occur because they take each other too literally, vis-a-vis responding to the subtexts. To sieve out subtexts accurately, you have to listen actively to what's communicated and be observant. Watch out for hand gestures, body language, speed and tonality voice. The most important points of the communication are usually not openly articulated. Knowing how to read the subtext will take you a long way in building great relationships.

3 - Be positive

By being positive, it means to be generous with your emotions, such as love and kindness. Have you ever communicated with emotionally stingy people? These people are critical all the time. They keep harping on a small mistake and pinpointing every "issue" they can find. It feels suffocating and draining to be around them.

On the other hand, being an emotionally generous person makes you more endearing to be around. Focus more on the positive areas and not the negative ones. Show genuine care and concern for the person's well-being. Give praise where it's deserved. People will look forward to interacting with you because they feel happier and uplifted doing so.

4 - Respect the person

Any successful communication can only take place with mutual respect. If you don't respect the person first and foremost, it'll show itself during the conversation.

Acknowledge the person's background, expertise and capabilities. Acknowledge the person's position as the owner of their life. Even if it's a colleague you dislike, respect them for what they have done. How do you feel if the people who speak to you don't respect you? That's going to be how the other party feels. Not only that, you can't expect others to respect you if you don't first respect them, can you?

5 - Maintain eye contact

Looking at the speaker in the eye is a reassuring way of letting the person know you are there and listening. You don't have to be staring 100% of the time. Just maintain the gaze long enough whenever they look over, and give a reaffirming nod every once in a while. You don't want them thinking you are zoning out when you are really listening.

6 - Don't interrupt the person (unless there is good reason)

Don't cut in unnecessarily. Even if the person is long-winded, at the very least give a few chances to fully express their views before jumping in. Sometimes, you may think you know what the person is going to say next, but you may actually be wrong. There have been times when the other party says something that's completely different from what I thought would be said.

I've been out with people who are extremely long-winded - they can literally go on-and-on for 30 minutes, talking and talking, without realizing the people around have switched off. When you face such people, let them finish talking for the first few times. If subsequent replies are as lengthy, then chances are the person is very fogged up in her thinking pattern. Help her zoom down to the answer through the right questions.

7- When in doubt, ask

It's easy to assume; don’t! Assumptions are the root of so many problems.  Everyone you talk to is a whole new person, so don't think what applies to person X will automatically apply to person Y too. Erase all beliefs you formed of others and start off the communication on a whole new slate. When in doubt, ask for more details. Get all the facts before making any conclusion.

A good habit is to ask a clarifying question every time the person finishes talking so you know you got the right message. This goes a long way in a good conversation (and relationship).

8 -  Mirror the person

Mirroring is the behavior in which one person copies another person usually while in social interaction with them. It may include miming gestures, movements, body language, muscle tensions, expressions, tones, eye movements, breathing, tempo, accent, attitude, choice of words/metaphors and other aspects of communication.

Mirroring is more of a strategy to facilitate communication, rather than the key to good communication. Avoid relying on it solely, and don't overdo it too. Trying to mirror someone 100% will only make you look like an empty shell. That being said, mirroring does help you to ease into the right "state" for communication. The next time you speak to someone, try to mirror the key body movements. If the person is sitting in a slouched position, slouch and match your eye at the same level. If the person is smiling, smile along with him/her. This will encourage him/her to open up more.

9 - To get the right answers, ask the right questions

Every conversation is made up of questions and answers. Being a better communicator requires you to ask questions, so you can forward the conversation the right way. The direction of the conversation and the type of answers you get is dependent on the quality of your questions.

There are several types of questions. The first is open questions. You ask these when you want the person to openly share about something. Example: "What happened?" or "How did the meeting go?". The second is probing questions. These are pin-pointed to uncover more about a particular topic. For example: "What made you think this way?", "What are you unhappy about?" or "What did he do to you?". The Third is close-ended questions. You ask these to get a quick yes/no answer on areas you already have specific thoughts on. These help to advance the conversation quickly. Using a combination of these questions help you create the best communication experience.