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Family Workshop on Raising Boys
By CE&CC :: Monday, October 20, 2008 :: 114081 Views :: Article Rating :: Living & Lifestyle, Career & Education, Chaldean Education & Career Center

Michigan, USA – The Chaldean Education and Career Center urges Chaldean parents with sons to take advantage of an upcoming family workshop featuring national best selling author and internationally recognized authority on boys and men, Dr. William S. Pollack, PhD.

The event will be held on November 3, 2008 from 7 pm - 9 pm at the Oakland Schools Building, located on 2111 Pontiac Lake Road in Waterford, Michigan, 48328. 

Dr. Pollack's presentation will address the crisis of boyhood in America, specialized techniques for reconnecting with boys, new approaches to "Mothering" and "Fathering", and new models of understanding "What makes boys tick"

The event is free to those who RSVP by e-mailing info@chaldean.org

Dr. William Pollack is a Harvard Medical School psychologist, Director of the Center for Men and Young Men at McLean Hospital, Harvard Medical School, and author of Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood.

It seems that boys are becoming more troubled and violent with each passing year. We asked renowned psychologist, Dr. William Pollack, if the publicized violence in schools is just the tip of a hidden iceberg.

Dr. Pollack thinks that we all need to make changes to rescue boys, and that the changes can't simply involve metal detectors and banning black shirts in school. Too many boys have been taught not to show their feelings and are suffering in silence. Parents can help their boys by understanding them better and communicating with them. Here's how.

Chaldean Mothers and fathers can engage their boys in what Pollack calls "action talk." First, find a "safe" space away from others where your son feels that no one will make fun of him. Then find a game he enjoys. For some boys that's a board or video game. For others it's basketball or catch. During the play, you can begin to introduce brief statements and questions to draw your son out and see how he's feeling. You might start with something like, "I noticed that you were really quiet last night after your soccer practice. Is everything going OK on the team? How are you feeling?"

Many parents will be shocked at how their boys begin to open up during "action talk." Fathers can talk about their own struggles and pain during adolescence. In this way fathers can show their sons that they're strong even though they've gone through painful times. The result can be that your son feels he's not alone in his pain, he bonds to you, and he learns ways of coping with his feelings.

Chaldean Mothers should feel encouraged and empowered by the knowledge that you just can't love a boy too much. Mothers who have been told that they should separate from their sons or beware of mothering them too much should feel free to hug their boys and show their love freely. You just can't have too much mother. Research shows that men who had strong connections to their mothers growing up are more successful at work, emotionally healthy, and live longer.

The other thing mothers can do is recognize that boys express love through action. They might fold the laundry without being asked, or bring you a glass of water. This is an expression of love, and mothers can feel free to say "I love you" right back.

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St. Thomas, MI USA

St. Thomas Chaldean Catholic Church
6900 Maple Rd.
West Bloomfield, MI 48322
Tel: (248) 788-2460
Fax: (248) 788-2153

Founding Pastor:
Rev. Hanna Cheikho

Current Pastor:
Rev. Frank Kalabat

Parochial Vicar:
Rev. Jirjis Abrahim

Rev. Emmanuel Rayes, Retired  


Rev. Frank Kalabat
 

Rev. Frank Kalabat was born in 1970 in San Diego, California and entered St. Francis Seminary of San Diego, California.  The admission to the Catholic seminary made him the first born U.S. Chaldean to enter an American seminary.  In 1992, Fr. Kalabat continued his studies at Sacred Heart Major Seminary in Detroit, Michigan.  In July 1995, shortly after graduation he was ordained as priest by His Excellency Bishop Ibrahim N. Ibrahim.  

Fr. Frank chose Mother of God Parish in Southfield, MI. as his first assignment serving the Chaldean community as an associate pastor for half a decade.  In 2001, Fr. Kalabat was elected to serve as Pastor of St. Tomas Parish in West Bloomfield, Michigan where he remains today.   

Rev. Jirjis Abrahim

Rev. Jirjis Abrahim was born in Telkaif, Iraq in 1942. Upon graduation Fr. Abrahim was admitted to St. Peter Chaldean Seminary in Baghdad, Iraq.  After a decade of studies and numerous degrees, Fr. Abrhim was ordained a priest in 1967.  He chose to continue ministering in Baghdad, Iraq.  There he was appointed the headmaster of the catechism at Mother of Sorrows Cathedral.  Fr. Abrahim also assisted St. Therese Church in Baghdad until 1978.  Afterward he was asked to assist St. Joseph Church in Baghdad and was appointed Parochial Vicar from 1978-1992. 

In 1992, Fr. Abrahim was called upon to assist the growing Chaldean population in Michigan.  Upon his arrival he was assigned to St. Joseph Church in Tory, Michigan.  Two years later Fr. Abrahim was asked to become the pastor of a Parish community in Windsor, Canada  where he remained the parish pastor until 2001.

Continuing demographic changes in Michigan required Fr. Abrahim to return to St. Joseph Parish in Tory as a Parochial Vicar, where he remained until 2006.  In 2006 he was elected to St. Thomas Parish as Parochial Vicar in West Bloomfield, MI. where he currently serves the Chaldean community.

 

Rev. Emmanuel Rayes

Rev. Emmanuel Rays was born in Araden, Iraq in 1930.  He studied at St. John Dominican Seminary and was ordained to the priesthood in 1954.  The Chaldean catholic ambassador ministered in northern Iraq from 1954-1963, in Syria and Lebanon from 1963-1980, and in the United Stated from 1980 to the present day.
 
Form 1980-1983, he was appointed associate pastor at Mother of God Parish in Southfield, Michigan.  From 1983-1989 he served as pastor at Sacred Heart Parish in Detroit, Michigan.  During the early 1990’s he ministered to the Chaldean community in Farmington Hills and was at St. Joseph Parish in Tory where he was Parochial Vicar until 2000.

Although Fr. Rayes retired in 2001, he remains active in serving the community.  He is the author of many articles in Arabic and is the editor-in-chief of the Al Mishal and Al-Tariq magazine.  He has translated and continues to translate many books from French and English into Arabic.