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Family Workshop on Raising Boys
By CE&CC :: Monday, October 20, 2008 :: 91355 Views :: Living & Lifestyle, Career & Education, Chaldean Education & Career Center

Michigan, USA – The Chaldean Education and Career Center urges Chaldean parents with sons to take advantage of an upcoming family workshop featuring national best selling author and internationally recognized authority on boys and men, Dr. William S. Pollack, PhD.

The event will be held on November 3, 2008 from 7 pm - 9 pm at the Oakland Schools Building, located on 2111 Pontiac Lake Road in Waterford, Michigan, 48328. 

Dr. Pollack's presentation will address the crisis of boyhood in America, specialized techniques for reconnecting with boys, new approaches to "Mothering" and "Fathering", and new models of understanding "What makes boys tick"

The event is free to those who RSVP by e-mailing info@chaldean.org

Dr. William Pollack is a Harvard Medical School psychologist, Director of the Center for Men and Young Men at McLean Hospital, Harvard Medical School, and author of Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood.

It seems that boys are becoming more troubled and violent with each passing year. We asked renowned psychologist, Dr. William Pollack, if the publicized violence in schools is just the tip of a hidden iceberg.

Dr. Pollack thinks that we all need to make changes to rescue boys, and that the changes can't simply involve metal detectors and banning black shirts in school. Too many boys have been taught not to show their feelings and are suffering in silence. Parents can help their boys by understanding them better and communicating with them. Here's how.

Chaldean Mothers and fathers can engage their boys in what Pollack calls "action talk." First, find a "safe" space away from others where your son feels that no one will make fun of him. Then find a game he enjoys. For some boys that's a board or video game. For others it's basketball or catch. During the play, you can begin to introduce brief statements and questions to draw your son out and see how he's feeling. You might start with something like, "I noticed that you were really quiet last night after your soccer practice. Is everything going OK on the team? How are you feeling?"

Many parents will be shocked at how their boys begin to open up during "action talk." Fathers can talk about their own struggles and pain during adolescence. In this way fathers can show their sons that they're strong even though they've gone through painful times. The result can be that your son feels he's not alone in his pain, he bonds to you, and he learns ways of coping with his feelings.

Chaldean Mothers should feel encouraged and empowered by the knowledge that you just can't love a boy too much. Mothers who have been told that they should separate from their sons or beware of mothering them too much should feel free to hug their boys and show their love freely. You just can't have too much mother. Research shows that men who had strong connections to their mothers growing up are more successful at work, emotionally healthy, and live longer.

The other thing mothers can do is recognize that boys express love through action. They might fold the laundry without being asked, or bring you a glass of water. This is an expression of love, and mothers can feel free to say "I love you" right back.

St. Joseph, MI USA

St. Joseph Chaldean Catholic Church
2442 E. Big Beaver Rd.
Troy, MI 48083
Tel: (248) 528-3676
Fax: (248) 524-1957

Congregation Organizer:
Rev. Michael J. Bazzi

Church Constructing Pastor:
Rev. Sarhad Y. Jammo

Current Pastor:
Msgr. Zouhair Toma

Parochial Vicar:
Rev. Ayad Hanna

 Current Pastor: Msgr. Zouhair Toma

Msgr. Zouhair Toma (Kejbou) was born in Telkaif, Iraq in 1947.  He was ordained a priest in Baghdad, Iraq in 1968, and accepted his first assignment to serve the community of Baquba.  The Monsignor’s leadership skills and organizational talents along with his mastery of theology were immediately evident.  He later assisted Sts. Peter and Paul in Al-Salehia, and St. George in New Baghdad.

In August, 1978 Monsignor Toma was called to serve the growing community of persecuted Chaldeans finding refuge in Australia.   Being the fist Chaldean priest to arrive in Australia he quickly established a parish for the Chaldeans in Sydney to serve their social and spiritual needs.  The parish was named after St. Thomas the Apostle and built a rectory. 

In 1989, for his incredible work he was granted the title of Monsignor, Chaldean Patriarchal Vicar for Australia and New Zealand.  Continuing his passionate work to serve the Chaldean community the Monsignor moved the Parish Center to a more accessible location and built a large church campus featuring a modern community center, residence quarters, and administrative offices in 1995. 

In 2003, Monsignor Toma added a magnificent church to replace the previous one in order to serve the fast growing community and also opened two other centers.  The first was Our Lady Guardian of Plants in Melbourne, and the second was Mar Addai the Apostle in Auckland, New Zealand.  Mar Addai in New Zealand included two very large churches along with rectories and community centers.  Overseeing the Patriarchal Vicariate for 28 years, he managed to inspire six more priests to help minister to the fast growing Chaldean community. 

In August 2006, Monsignor chose to assist the St. Thomas the Apostle Diocese in the U.S. as more Catholic churches were being built in America and address the growing need.  On October 2006, Monsignor was incardinated and appointed Pastor of St. Joseph Parish in Troy.